How to chat with the women in dating

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Many guys feel shy and awkward at the thought of chatting up a woman. They imagine the embarrassment of being rejected and even laughed at. Sadly this fear of rejection can hold you back from approaching women.
Accepting rejection
Once you learn to accept rejection then you will see it as just one step nearer to finding your perfect date. Chatting up women is a numbers game. The more women you chat up the more confident you'll become, and even though you'll get rejections you will also find some really hot women that will love to date you.
So how do you approach a woman you fancy in a bar, and what do you say to her? The chances are she is feeling just as nervous as you are. Breathe deeply and just go up to her. Don't hesitate as not only will you look nervous, but other guys may get in before you. There is a lot of competition in bars and nightclubs.
If you feel very unsure of yourself you could try catching her eye first. If she holds your gaze for more than a few seconds then this is a good sign. Smiling is an even better sign and you should have no worries about going up to her.
Any single woman in a bar or club may be expecting to get hit on by a guy. If she is with friends don't let this put you off. Chat to her friends as well as this will make you look relaxed and friendly.
Breaking the ice
Breaking the ice can be hard, but if you can think of something funny to say then it will be much easier. Women love a guy who is funny and will find him attractive. Keep the humour light hearted and don't whatever you do make any sexual comments. She may feel threatened by it, and you could scare her off. Read humorous books and find funny chat up lines on the internet that you could use.
For example you could say something like "Are you interested in helping homeless people?" If she says "yes", you could then say "how would you like to take me home then?" Be confident when you say this. Don't be half hearted and say it in a timid and quiet voice. Women are wary of nervous and jittery guys.
Keep it light hearted
If she likes you and conversation starts to flow, keep things light hearted. It's important to maintain eye contact and smile. Women like men who are confident, so looking away or down at your feet will make her think you're unsure and hesitant. Don't stare at her chest. You aren't talking to her breasts!
Take an interest in what she's saying. Listen and make comments. If you feel anxious just breathe deeply as this will get oxygen flowing round your body and make you feel more relaxed, it also releases endorphins which have a calming effect. Feeling nervous can make some guys ramble on about themselves, giving little chance for any woman to get a word in!
Knowing what to say
If you don't know what to say find something to comment on. Is she wearing a necklace or unusual rings? Talk about something going on around you. This will open up a conversation and you can then build on it. For example if you comment on her necklace she may say that she bought it on a holiday in Greece. You could then talk about your own holiday in the same region and then go on to talk about the delicious food and wine available there.
Once you have established some common ground you will find plenty to talk about. If it doesn't work out, don't worry as there are plenty of other women to chat up.
Women are not a strange and exotic species from another planet. We have the same feelings and anxieties as men. Learning takes practice just like anything else, and the more you practice the better and more confident you will become.
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How to Have a Good First Date

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ByTerry L F
Now that you've managed to get the woman you've been after to go on a date with you, how do you make sure that your date goes well? Obviously, some factors are out of your control, but there are ways to make sure that you contribute to your first date being a good time for both of you.
First, choose a location that will make you feel comfortable. For example, if you're nervous and don't enjoy making small talk, dinner may not be a good option. Dinners leave a lot of free time that needs to be filled with talking, and if that's not your strong suit, you might think of something different, like going to a sporting event which allows for some conversation, or even inviting another couple to come with you. Even bowling will give you a chance to talk while also having something to distract you both if the conversation lags.
If you are going to choose to take your date out to dinner, be sure to steer clear of controversial topics like religion and politics. There is nothing that can cause a date to go sour like fighting over opposing viewpoints. Also avoid awkward topics like ex-girlfriends. Don't brag about yourself, either. While you may think it makes you a hero in her eyes, in reality there is nothing more boring than listening to someone goes on and on about how good they are at work, athletics, or anything else. Try to talk about topics that allow you both to contribute to the conversation, as odds are she will appreciate a chance to share, as well, and you will get a chance to show that you can be a good listener.
As the date is getting ready to end, there is always the awkward moment where both of you are wondering if a goodnight kiss is appropriate. Kissing on the first date isn't always appreciated. The quick way to find out if she would like to kiss you is to offer her a goodnight hug. During the hug, if she leans in as if she is expecting a kiss, kiss her. If she doesn't, don't. There is no faster way to ruin a good date than by giving an unwanted kiss. If you do kiss her, make it simple and quick. If she seems to want to kiss longer, than do, but always try to mirror her kissing. Don't try to force the issue of a next date. Call her the next day and thank her for the date, then broach the topic then.
Every guy can do well in a first date with a woman. The question is are you able to keep the conversation going on.
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What Popular Relationship Advice Books Won't Tell You

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ByBert Gardner
Have you ever taken a good look at the selection of 'mainstream' books on relationships? You know, the type you find filling shelf space at the local Barnes and Nobles?
I have. I had a good read through the other day. And you know what? In my humble opinion, barely one out of a hundred is worth the paper it's printed on.
This got me thinking... how come there is so little good advice to be found in all these relationship books? Because if I didn't know any better, and actually followed the advice I saw, not only would I not have the type of relationship I truly desire, but I'd be stuck in a kind of relationship 'purgatory' for months (and perhaps years) while searching my soul for the answer. I've seen it happen.
After thinking about this for a while, it dawned on me. They are not really out to help us at all! The majority of these books are designed to sell. And they do this by coming up with a cute-sounding pet theory, packaged with a catchy title.
Add an author with half an alphabet behind their name... cue up some generic sounding cover blurbs from the usual suspects and voila! Another hot seller.
If I sound a little cynical, I'm sorry. But the lack of real advice I found was surprising. But before you get me wrong, there were a few good titles out that actually had some nuggets of wisdom.
Sadly, none of them really pulled it all together and told the complete story of how to have great relationships.
It seems to me that most popular relationship books are really just built around one idea (then padded with filler content), so I thought I'd give you one killer relationship secret that I haven't shared anywhere else.
This secret has been responsible for cutting short almost every little argument I used to have with my partner. You know the type, the trivial, annoying little arguments that pop up and grate on your nerves.
It's so simple that I can't believe I hadn't heard it before. But after I read about this secret (and no, it was not in any mainstream relationship advice book). The quality of our relationship increased dramatically.
In fact, my girlfriend actually told me that no one else had ever done this for her before, and that she loved me even more for being able to do it.
But before I tell you what it was, there is another problem with most relationship books on the market today.
The problem is that the majority of them are written by purely academic writers. Now I have no problem with advanced degrees. But I do not subscribe to the idea that simply having a collection of letters behind your name qualifies you to dole out advice about real-world relationships.
Again, this is not an attack on all authors. Because there are exceptions that combine real world experience with book learning. But they are rare.
Anyway, I was going to share that secret...
It's simple really. I made a promise to my girl that if I ever did something or said something that annoyed her, she could tell me and I would never do that thing again. Now this didn't mean I would let her tell me I couldn't enjoy a beer, or watch Football. I'm talking about the little things.
For example, I had a habit of always leaving glasses that I'd drunk out on the counter. This annoyed the hell out of her (not sure why - but it did) but because I had agreed to the promise I have not done it since.
Believe me, without these small annoyances chipping away at our relationship we are much happier together. And of course, the promise goes both ways too.
Try it out for yourself. I promise, this tip alone is worth more than any fancy-pants relationship book you'll get from the bookstore for $39.
If you insist on browsing the 'relationship advice' racks, I'll summarize the main suggestion you'll find in most books...
When you boil it down, most of the books come to this. When you encounter relationship problems, put aside the relationship for 30 days and 'work on yourself' first.
Now that you know. Save your money. Because you can learn much more from the romance section than you ever could from those dry academic manuals.
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Why Men Can Dating Younger Women

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I was having breakfast the other day with a friend who was giving dating advice to his son. For purposes of his anonymity, I am going to call just call him "Son."
My friend said, "Son, you're 18 so I am going to tell you how you date. Since you are 18, you are allowed to date a woman half your age plus seven." Son looked at him and said, "Alright Dad. You're 50, so that means you can date a woman who is 32. And that means I can date a woman who is 16."
From where did this ridiculous rule come? You can date someone as young as half your age plus seven years? It's so male-skewed, it's ridiculous.
It's no wonder that so many women feel men are so immature that they can't date men their own age. It's because of this urban legend that has gone around forever.
Based upon this rule, the only time as a man that you can date a woman your own age is when you're 14 years old (because half of fourteen is seven, and seven plus seven is fourteen). So at the ripe old age of fourteen -- the age when you still have pimples, are as insecure as can be and are unlikely to get anything more than a kiss from a woman your own age -- that is the only time when you can enjoy dating a woman your own age?
What about if your ten year old looks at you and says, "I'm ready to date Dad." Do you say, "No problem. Half your age is five. Add seven to that, and you can date a twelve year old -- an older woman." There is so much a twelve year old can teach a ten year old -- advanced coloring, advanced texting, and so many other important life skills.
Then you get a little older. You're 20 years old and, under this rule, you can date a 17 year old. Great! There you are in college, and you get to go back to high school again to find a girlfriend.
When you're 25, you can date a 19.

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what qualities do you look for in a woman ?

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In the dating world, many-a-times we tend to trust all the wrong people and later we regret our actions. Not every girl out there is right for you. Hence finding someone perfect for you in a world that is not so perfect is not an easy task. Here we will discuss what qualities you should look for in a girl, instead of getting stuck with someone who is wrong for you.
Trust is the most important quality in a relationship. It should be balanced from both the sides. Search for a girl who can stay loyal to you. Just remember if she is cheating on someone for you, there is no guarantee that tomorrow she won't cheat on you. Similarly, go for a girl who believes in you. If you go for a girl who is way too possessive, you will only end up getting frustrated in the long run. The next most important quality is an understanding nature. If the understanding between two people is good, there won't be any room for problems, arguments or issues. Search for someone who thinks like you. If she thinks like you, she will find it easier to understand you. Laughter is a great medicine for any problem. Go for a girl who has the ability to make you laugh. If she beholds a good sense of humor, you will always enjoy her company no matter what. Very few girls are good listeners. No matter how quiet you are, at some point in time you will want her to listen to you as well. Go for a girl who listens to you, accepts you the way you are and motivates you to achieve your goals. Commitment is very important in a relationship. If you are looking for a serious relationship, don't go for someone who is not ready to commit.
Just remember at the end of the day, even if you make a mistake, it doesn't really matter. The lesson that you learn and the way to gather yourself and move on is what really matters. For each heart break, you are one more step closer to finding true love. Love comes above every other quality. If a girl really really loves you, she will always keep you happy. However if she doesn't, you will never be able to be happy with her no matter how much you try. So don't ever compromise on love.
The author writes relationship advice and also writes love messages which one can use in texts, FB, email, etc.

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How Honesty Leads to Healthy Dating

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When you start dating someone new, it can be nerve wracking. Not only are you excited and happy, but you are also really nervous about how they will react once they get to know you. This is why anyone who has ever read any advice about going on dates knows the run down of what they should do: make a good first impression, smile, be charming, and don't reveal any secrets. The question is, however, does this lead to healthy dating? After all, the tendency is for most people to get a bit carried away and stretch the truth.
While it is definitely important to put your best foot forward and try to show the best side of you, this shouldn't be done to the point where you start changing who you are or pretending to be a certain way when you're not. It is important to be genuine with a woman from the very first date. First of all, women are very intuitive. They will know if you're faking it or if something is off with you, and this will be counterproductive to your making a good first impression. Second, if you start on a genuine note, you will have a very healthy dating relationship with this woman because she knows you are not fake.
So, how do you give a good impression, but still make sure that impression is 100% you? Try these techniques:
1) Talk About Her
If you're afraid you're going to say something that will turn her off, why not talk about her? Showing interest in her and what she does is always something that will score you brownie points. She will be flattered that you're showing that much interest. If you want to keep her talking, open up a topic she is likely to have an opinion on.
2) Always Check What You Said
Naturally, there will be times when she will ask you questions and you will have to answer. When you answer, always make eye contact. This will help keep you in check because it's hard to lie to someone and look them in the eye. As you speak, check on what you're saying. Is it all true? If it isn't, correct it right there. It will seem like less of a lie.
3) Pretend a Good Friend is There
It's very difficult to lie when someone who knows you well is around. Though it may be weird to pretend a friend is on a date with you. Thinking about how they'd react to what you're saying is another way to keep yourself in check.
Remember, honesty leads to healthy dating. When you're honest with a woman from the get go, having a relationship will be much easier because you won't have any big surprises to reveal later. Like having to tell her you're just an analyst when you initially told her you were an investment banker. You will also find that you aren't as anxious about going on dates because you know you are with someone who likes you exactly for who you are, not who you made her think you were!
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