What Popular Relationship Advice Books Won't Tell You

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ByBert Gardner
Have you ever taken a good look at the selection of 'mainstream' books on relationships? You know, the type you find filling shelf space at the local Barnes and Nobles?
I have. I had a good read through the other day. And you know what? In my humble opinion, barely one out of a hundred is worth the paper it's printed on.
This got me thinking... how come there is so little good advice to be found in all these relationship books? Because if I didn't know any better, and actually followed the advice I saw, not only would I not have the type of relationship I truly desire, but I'd be stuck in a kind of relationship 'purgatory' for months (and perhaps years) while searching my soul for the answer. I've seen it happen.
After thinking about this for a while, it dawned on me. They are not really out to help us at all! The majority of these books are designed to sell. And they do this by coming up with a cute-sounding pet theory, packaged with a catchy title.
Add an author with half an alphabet behind their name... cue up some generic sounding cover blurbs from the usual suspects and voila! Another hot seller.
If I sound a little cynical, I'm sorry. But the lack of real advice I found was surprising. But before you get me wrong, there were a few good titles out that actually had some nuggets of wisdom.
Sadly, none of them really pulled it all together and told the complete story of how to have great relationships.
It seems to me that most popular relationship books are really just built around one idea (then padded with filler content), so I thought I'd give you one killer relationship secret that I haven't shared anywhere else.
This secret has been responsible for cutting short almost every little argument I used to have with my partner. You know the type, the trivial, annoying little arguments that pop up and grate on your nerves.
It's so simple that I can't believe I hadn't heard it before. But after I read about this secret (and no, it was not in any mainstream relationship advice book). The quality of our relationship increased dramatically.
In fact, my girlfriend actually told me that no one else had ever done this for her before, and that she loved me even more for being able to do it.
But before I tell you what it was, there is another problem with most relationship books on the market today.
The problem is that the majority of them are written by purely academic writers. Now I have no problem with advanced degrees. But I do not subscribe to the idea that simply having a collection of letters behind your name qualifies you to dole out advice about real-world relationships.
Again, this is not an attack on all authors. Because there are exceptions that combine real world experience with book learning. But they are rare.
Anyway, I was going to share that secret...
It's simple really. I made a promise to my girl that if I ever did something or said something that annoyed her, she could tell me and I would never do that thing again. Now this didn't mean I would let her tell me I couldn't enjoy a beer, or watch Football. I'm talking about the little things.
For example, I had a habit of always leaving glasses that I'd drunk out on the counter. This annoyed the hell out of her (not sure why - but it did) but because I had agreed to the promise I have not done it since.
Believe me, without these small annoyances chipping away at our relationship we are much happier together. And of course, the promise goes both ways too.
Try it out for yourself. I promise, this tip alone is worth more than any fancy-pants relationship book you'll get from the bookstore for $39.
If you insist on browsing the 'relationship advice' racks, I'll summarize the main suggestion you'll find in most books...
When you boil it down, most of the books come to this. When you encounter relationship problems, put aside the relationship for 30 days and 'work on yourself' first.
Now that you know. Save your money. Because you can learn much more from the romance section than you ever could from those dry academic manuals.
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Why Men Can Dating Younger Women

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I was having breakfast the other day with a friend who was giving dating advice to his son. For purposes of his anonymity, I am going to call just call him "Son."
My friend said, "Son, you're 18 so I am going to tell you how you date. Since you are 18, you are allowed to date a woman half your age plus seven." Son looked at him and said, "Alright Dad. You're 50, so that means you can date a woman who is 32. And that means I can date a woman who is 16."
From where did this ridiculous rule come? You can date someone as young as half your age plus seven years? It's so male-skewed, it's ridiculous.
It's no wonder that so many women feel men are so immature that they can't date men their own age. It's because of this urban legend that has gone around forever.
Based upon this rule, the only time as a man that you can date a woman your own age is when you're 14 years old (because half of fourteen is seven, and seven plus seven is fourteen). So at the ripe old age of fourteen -- the age when you still have pimples, are as insecure as can be and are unlikely to get anything more than a kiss from a woman your own age -- that is the only time when you can enjoy dating a woman your own age?
What about if your ten year old looks at you and says, "I'm ready to date Dad." Do you say, "No problem. Half your age is five. Add seven to that, and you can date a twelve year old -- an older woman." There is so much a twelve year old can teach a ten year old -- advanced coloring, advanced texting, and so many other important life skills.
Then you get a little older. You're 20 years old and, under this rule, you can date a 17 year old. Great! There you are in college, and you get to go back to high school again to find a girlfriend.
When you're 25, you can date a 19.

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what qualities do you look for in a woman ?

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In the dating world, many-a-times we tend to trust all the wrong people and later we regret our actions. Not every girl out there is right for you. Hence finding someone perfect for you in a world that is not so perfect is not an easy task. Here we will discuss what qualities you should look for in a girl, instead of getting stuck with someone who is wrong for you.
Trust is the most important quality in a relationship. It should be balanced from both the sides. Search for a girl who can stay loyal to you. Just remember if she is cheating on someone for you, there is no guarantee that tomorrow she won't cheat on you. Similarly, go for a girl who believes in you. If you go for a girl who is way too possessive, you will only end up getting frustrated in the long run. The next most important quality is an understanding nature. If the understanding between two people is good, there won't be any room for problems, arguments or issues. Search for someone who thinks like you. If she thinks like you, she will find it easier to understand you. Laughter is a great medicine for any problem. Go for a girl who has the ability to make you laugh. If she beholds a good sense of humor, you will always enjoy her company no matter what. Very few girls are good listeners. No matter how quiet you are, at some point in time you will want her to listen to you as well. Go for a girl who listens to you, accepts you the way you are and motivates you to achieve your goals. Commitment is very important in a relationship. If you are looking for a serious relationship, don't go for someone who is not ready to commit.
Just remember at the end of the day, even if you make a mistake, it doesn't really matter. The lesson that you learn and the way to gather yourself and move on is what really matters. For each heart break, you are one more step closer to finding true love. Love comes above every other quality. If a girl really really loves you, she will always keep you happy. However if she doesn't, you will never be able to be happy with her no matter how much you try. So don't ever compromise on love.
The author writes relationship advice and also writes love messages which one can use in texts, FB, email, etc.

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How Honesty Leads to Healthy Dating

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When you start dating someone new, it can be nerve wracking. Not only are you excited and happy, but you are also really nervous about how they will react once they get to know you. This is why anyone who has ever read any advice about going on dates knows the run down of what they should do: make a good first impression, smile, be charming, and don't reveal any secrets. The question is, however, does this lead to healthy dating? After all, the tendency is for most people to get a bit carried away and stretch the truth.
While it is definitely important to put your best foot forward and try to show the best side of you, this shouldn't be done to the point where you start changing who you are or pretending to be a certain way when you're not. It is important to be genuine with a woman from the very first date. First of all, women are very intuitive. They will know if you're faking it or if something is off with you, and this will be counterproductive to your making a good first impression. Second, if you start on a genuine note, you will have a very healthy dating relationship with this woman because she knows you are not fake.
So, how do you give a good impression, but still make sure that impression is 100% you? Try these techniques:
1) Talk About Her
If you're afraid you're going to say something that will turn her off, why not talk about her? Showing interest in her and what she does is always something that will score you brownie points. She will be flattered that you're showing that much interest. If you want to keep her talking, open up a topic she is likely to have an opinion on.
2) Always Check What You Said
Naturally, there will be times when she will ask you questions and you will have to answer. When you answer, always make eye contact. This will help keep you in check because it's hard to lie to someone and look them in the eye. As you speak, check on what you're saying. Is it all true? If it isn't, correct it right there. It will seem like less of a lie.
3) Pretend a Good Friend is There
It's very difficult to lie when someone who knows you well is around. Though it may be weird to pretend a friend is on a date with you. Thinking about how they'd react to what you're saying is another way to keep yourself in check.
Remember, honesty leads to healthy dating. When you're honest with a woman from the get go, having a relationship will be much easier because you won't have any big surprises to reveal later. Like having to tell her you're just an analyst when you initially told her you were an investment banker. You will also find that you aren't as anxious about going on dates because you know you are with someone who likes you exactly for who you are, not who you made her think you were!
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How the 'Type of Woman Men Like' Can Ruin Your Dating Life

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ByTommy O Coffler
It can be pretty funny how men and women perceive the dating game. Sometimes men think there aren't enough women to go around or that all the good women are already attached. At the same time, some women are just desperate to have one man notice them, but all they do is overlook her. Sounds like two different situations? It isn't. It all boils down to the type of woman men like.
This problem happens everywhere. Men have a type of woman they tend to prefer. These preferences can be physical, something about their personality, or just a vibe they can't explain. But as a result of having these preferences, they begin to ignore any woman who doesn't fit into their ideal picture. Women, on the other hand, tend to be too shy to go up to a man, and those that have the guts to do it are usually the ones that already fall into their type or are too intimidating for some guys.
To address this problem, women need to find confidence and to work on their self-esteem, but that is a completely different discussion. This discussion is about the side of men. You may not realize it (and really most men don't realize they have a type until it's pointed out to them) but sticking to the type of woman men like can be really detrimental to your dating life.
When you are after just one type of woman, you are hindering your overall success. You are blocking yourself from seeing all the other different beautiful women out there, and naturally this is detrimental to your dating. Say you walk into a party and the type of woman you like is either taken or not around, you begin to think that the party is a bust, you don't even want to try to get to know the other women in the room. Just like that, you have made yourself fail, and you have lessened your chances of meeting someone really great. Still wondering why it's so hard to find someone? Well, maybe it's cause you have your horse blinders on!
So, as a guy, what should you do? Simple. Next time you go out, go out with the goal of meeting and talking to someone who isn't your type. Say you're a fan of women who dress provocatively. Why not approach a woman who seems shy and conservative? You never know, she may just be the type of woman you've have always wanted to meet!
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How To Make A Man Desire You! 4 Ways To Make Him Chase After You

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ByTrent Jefferson
Do you like a guy whom you'd like to be with? Do you want to know how to make him chase after you? If you're clueless when it comes to attracting him, don't despair. You can make him feel attracted to you by doing some effective things. This will make any guy chase after you if you use it the right way.
Here are four effective ways to make a man desire you and chase after you...
Look extremely attractive - When it comes to attracting a guy, looks are important initially. You need to look attractive if you want to get the attention of a man. Always make sure that you work on your looks. The clothes and the makeup you wear needs to be captivating. You don't need to look like a super model. Just looking attractive would be more than fine. So don't be lazy. Get rid of those glasses, change the hair style and wear better clothes.
Flirt with him the right way - Flirting isn't about saying something or doing something that'll make a man fall for you instantaneously. Flirting is about complimenting a man in a way that will make him feel good of himself. Flirting isn't just limited to the particular man you are trying to woo. You can flirt with anyone you like. It's just making the other person feel good about themselves.
Cool people who are incredibly social flirt with both the sexes. They always do things to elicit positive feelings inside another person. Mastering this skill can be tricky. But it begins with becoming aware of the other person, listening to them and throwing a genuine compliment every now and then during the conversation.
Do not reveal anything - Plenty of women have an impulse to reveal how they really feel with a man before the connection's built in the relationship. This will make any man lose the attraction he has for you. It's a man's job to reveal things first all the time. Revealing your feelings too early on in the relationship will make him lose interest in you. So don't reveal anything to him.
Act like you don't need him - At all times during the relationship, you must act like you don't really need him. That's the only way you'll be able to keep the upper hand in the relationship and make him do what you want him to do. It's so counter-intuitive. But when you act like you aren't interested in someone, it makes them feel interested in you. People react to people that are unreactive to them.
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How To Get Laid - 3 Social Comfort Tips

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ByClaire Geonzon
Social comfort is essential if you want to know how to get laid. Before you can start laying on the attraction, she needs to be comfortable around you and see you as a non-threat. Here are 3 simple tips for getting her comfortable.
Observe Well
It's all about the skill of observation. This is a great skill to have for any social situation. It's not hard at all to learn. You can get thoughts, ideas and intuitions about people if you pay attention, and then you start blurting them out. Most people are pretty observant, but they don't get this point. It's like you have to take the filter off your mouth. Don't even think before you speak - just let it out.
Make Regional References
Knowing and being able to talk about anything regional is great. If you can talk about nightclubs, sporting events, new openings, restaurants, food, music or anything else that's local, you've got all kinds of great social comfort conversations available to you. Make sure you're up-to-date about what's going on in your city.
You can do this by snagging some free local papers and just sort of keeping abreast. If you live in any major city you can check out Thrillist (www.thrillist.com). They have all the major cities covered. It gives you a good sense of what's going on.
Talk About Yourself
Most people feel uncomfortable speaking about themselves. They feel like if they do that, they're going to come off as narcissistic, egotistical or bragging. They tend to believe that people don't want to know about them. Why would they care? But actually, when we talk to strangers the topic of ourselves needs to come out early.
This is because of the idea of reciprocity. A stranger (including a woman you're into) isn't going to volunteer a lot of information about themselves if you don't do it first. You need to have good back and forth information going.
The key to doing this is to stop being afraid that people aren't going to like you. While it's true that they may not, at least give them a choice first. If you talk about yourself, they might be interested. If you don't, you'll never know. There are lots of opportunities there.
Just remember that social comfort is not about how to get laid. During that phase, you're just being social with her. Once that's established, then you can start escalating and building attraction.
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How To Get Laid And Turn Her Into Your Girlfriend - Health Matters

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ByClaire Geonzon
When you're learning how to get laid, you're not only learning how to get one-night stands - you can also get a girlfriend. The game is much easier when you've got long-term plans in mind. If you're looking for a girlfriend, you've got to check her out first to make sure that the two of you are compatible.
One factor to look at is her physical health. You don't need to look at her medical records or anything like that, but just see what her attitudes toward health in general are.
For example, does she work out? If you do, this is a plus. If you don't, you probably don't care. If you're the type of guy who works out six days a week, it's probably going to be a much bigger concern for you. Can you imagine if you were that into working out and you dated somebody who didn't work out at all?
Is she conscious about what she eats? Does she have an eating disorder (this is pretty common where I live in Los Angeles)? Does she do drugs? This is a really big one and it's important to consider it. There are different levels of drug use. Some people do cocaine once a month while others do it every day. Some people smoke a little weed sometimes while others shoot heroin. You've got to find out what kind of drugs she does and ask yourself whether you're comfortable with that or not.
The same goes for drinking. Does she drink excessively? If you're the type of person who likes to get blackout drunk three times a week and she does it every night, that's going to be a problem. On the other hand, if you don't drink at all and she gets drunk just once a month, even that once a month may be too much for you.
The important thing is to just look at overall lifestyle. Decide what things are comfortable or acceptable for you. Lots of people overlook these habits and lifestyle factors when they first get together because they're so into each other, but you've got to take a good look at them.
This is what I mean by physical health. When you're working on how to get laid and turn her into a girlfriend, health is a major factor in terms of compatibility. You've got to check this out before you decide to get really committed.
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Pick Up Artist Techniques You've Never Thought Of - Meditation

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ByClaire Geonzon
Pick up artist techniques aren't just about cool things you say or body language. There's also the inner game that you have to master. Meditation is a skill that has all kinds of lifestyle benefits. Here are just a few:
- Lowering oxygen consumption
- Increasing respiratory rate
- Increasing blood flow
- Increasing exercise tolerance
- Deeper levels of relaxation
- Building self-confidence
- Increasing serotonin levels
- Helping you resolve phobias and fears
- Helping you control your own thoughts
- Helping your focus and concentration.
Meditation increases creativity and helps you keep things in perspective. It improves peace of mind and happiness, and also helps you realize your purpose in life.
This is not a woo-hoo fairy and unicorns spiritual thing. Improving all of the above will make you better at seducing women. I know it because it has worked for me.
Meditation is great because it gets you to calm down. It's like forced relaxation and it's easy to do anywhere. To get started, sit or lay down somewhere comfortable and start focusing on your breathing.
All you have to do is breathe in and out and that's it. I set a timer for about ten minutes first thing in the morning and sit cross-legged with my eyes closed. I just breathe, relax, and let go. I focus but don't have any conscious thoughts.
The great thing about meditation is that it teaches you to just let things go. I'm the type of person who gets really irked by small things. I spend way too much time, effort, and energy pursing small things. Meditation has taught me to let go. Whether it's a small issue or a large issue, you just detach yourself from it and let it go.
So, how does meditation help you with women? First of all, you'll be more relaxed. Most guys aren't relaxed around women or relaxed in general. They walk around in a high state of anxiety, very nervous and very worried. If you meditate for 10 to 20 minutes a day, you'll become more relaxed in all areas of your life. You'll have less insecurity and be calmer.
It also centers you and brings you back to the real world. It helps you get out of your head. If you're the type who analyzes everything, it really helps you to stop doing that, and this helps you with women just as much as any other pick up artist techniques do.
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Pick Up Artist Techniques - Checking Out Her Emotional Health

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ByClaire Geonzon
Not all pick up artist techniques are about improving your game. When you're looking for a girlfriend - and I'm not talking about a one-night girlfriend, but a lasting relationship - you've got to know what you're looking for. This is more important than any pick up artist techniques you're actually going to use to get her. One of the main things to check out is her emotional health.
Finding an emotionally healthy woman is really important. You don't have to be a practicing psychologist, but there are just some bad emotional signs that you need to look out for. Luckily these usually happen early in the relationship.
Does she like drama? Some people love it - they have emotional mood swings, they love fighting, get really into making up, etc. I hate all of that. It's a waste of time and mental energy, but some people are into it. If a girl starts getting overly dramatic, I'm finished.
Does she communicate openly and honestly? This is extremely important. Some people hide their feelings. You want someone who can communicate directly with you and be honest. This is one of the most crucial things in having a healthy relationship. The communication needs to be there.
Does she have mood swings? I mean, aside from the usual time of the month. Does she freak out on people or is she mean to people? Does she go from really happy to extremely depressed in a heartbeat? It's hard to trust someone like that.
Is she demanding? Lots of demands aren't unreasonable at all, but is she overly demanding? For example, early on in the relationship does she start asking you to pick up her friends and bring them over in rush hour?
Is she nurturing and caring? If you're going to be in a long-term relationship with someone, she should be at least a bit nurturing. You want to watch out for girls who are really selfish.
Finally, check out her relationships with other people. Does she get along with her family, and especially her father? Does she have lots of enemies or stormy relationships with friends? All of these can be bad signs.
One of the most important pick up artist techniques for getting a long-term girlfriend is recognizing these signs early on. Make sure you understand exactly what it is you want out of a girlfriend before you start looking. This will make it much easier to find someone you can be happy with.
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How To Pick Up Beautiful Women - It Starts With Social Comfort

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ByClaire Geonzon
Social comfort basically means that the girl you're talking to is comfortable. You're not weird or creepy and she doesn't feel like all you're doing is hitting on her. It's really important if you want to pick up beautiful women to get them comfortable with you before you start working on attraction. Here are some ways to do it.
Use Her Name
It's really true that people love the sound of their own names. This is especially true of friends of the girls you're hitting on. If you're in a group it's actually almost more important to remember everybody else's name than her name. If you forget her name, you can kind of make that work for you because you can pretend you don't care that much about her. But forgetting a friend's name is deadly.
Hooks And Open Loops
Hooks and loops build investment by bating women into asking questions. A hook is a built-in conversational thread that's used to 'hook' the girl's attention. I might say, 'I'm totally in the wrong business because...' The hook here is the idea that I'm in the wrong business, because she's going to want to know what kind of business I'm in.
An open loop is an unfinished thought. These are really powerful because human beings naturally want resolution. We hate when things are uncertain and we don't know what's going to happen. By opening a thread, you make her more curious and interested in what you're going to say.
You shouldn't overuse hooks and open loops or it'll be too obvious, but these are great tools to have in your social comfort repertoire. When you throw a hook, it's also a good way to see if she's interested. If she doesn't take it, that tells you she's not.
Current Events
Current events make an awesome conversation topic, so you should be up-to-date on what's going on in the world. Start regionally and then work your way to bigger things. Focus especially on what's happening in the girl-relevant world like pop culture, fashion, movies, TV shows, celebrities, yoga, exercise crazes, etc. You probably don't want to talk religion or politics.
These social comfort strategies are really important if you want to pick up beautiful women. The important thing is to be observant so that you can tell when she's comfortable with you and how she's responding. Then, you can start laying on your attraction game.
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How To Pick Up Beautiful Women Who Are Girlfriend Material

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ByClaire Geonzon
If you want to pick up beautiful women so that you can find a great girlfriend, likes and dislikes are important. I know that your tastes are really on the surface of your personality, but it's still something you should think about. Know what's important for you before you start meeting women.
For example, does she like the same types of food as you? Does she like the same movies or music? Does she enjoy the same social activities? Or, does she like things that you absolutely can't stand?
I'm not saying that you should base your relationship on the music or movies you like. But if she's into things that you completely can't stand, you might want to rethink it because you're going to be around that stuff a lot. You're going to have to really like a girl to put up with that stuff.
Something that's a little less superficial is sense of humor. This one is really underrated. If you guys find the same things funny, you probably have a similar perspective on life. Your perspective on life is really what determines your sense of humor.
Do you have similar hobbies? If you do, you've got something to do together already. If you're totally uninterested in each other's hobbies, it's not too likely that you'll be doing them together.
Do you like going to the same places? This will make dating a whole lot easier. If you're not, this could make it more exciting. Both of you get to experience something new.
Are your social lives similar? This will be important as well. If you're too different it can cause problems. This is especially true if one of you is a homebody and the other likes to go out and party all the time.
For some guys, likes and dislikes are going to be more important than others. The whole point isn't to go out and find a girl that has the exact same tastes as you. Just like checking out her physical health, job and career, emotional health and way of socializing, you're just deciding what you like and what's alright with you. You've got to figure this out before you can start looking for a girlfriend because you're going to want to evaluate the girls you meet.
When you try to pick up beautiful women to find a girlfriend, it's all about knowing what you want first. This will give you more confidence and help you screen out the girls that aren't a good fit for you.
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Pick Up Lines To Get Girls - 2 Great Role Plays

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ByClaire Geonzon
This isn't actually a 'line,' it's a role play scenario. Role playing works much better than pickup lines to get girls, and after you try this one yourself, you'll understand why. This one is called Stripper Names.
It goes like this:
'You know, I was talking to my dad today and he told me something really messed up. He said that when my mom was pregnant, they thought that I was going to be a girl, and if I was a girl they were going to name me Iris. Isn't that messed up? I mean, Iris is such a stripper name.'
Let her comment on that and then say:
'What would your stripper name be? It's like the name of the street where you grew up and your first pet. I have a really good one but in order to get the full impact of it, I need to step away. When I come back, ask me what my name is.'
Then, you do a little turn around and she asks you, 'Okay, what's your name?' Mine is Bedford Watson, but figure yours out yourself and tell her. This is a really fun role play and you can use it as call back humor for the rest of the encounter.
Here's another good one. It's called Romantic Date. This is what you say:
'You know what I'm going to do with you? I'm going to take you on a romantic date. I'll take you to the Red Lobster on Interstate 40, I know the maître d. We'll get the best table right up front and you can get anything on the menu, even the five different types of shrimp. And don't forget all the free bread. We'll steal some and then go to the park and walk through it holding hands. Then, we'll let red balloons go, it'll be so romantic. Next, we'll go to the beach and we'll write our names in the sand. It'll be so romantic and I'll leave you there.'
That's a great one because the whole Red Lobster bit is hilarious mixed in with the other stuff. Again, this is great call back humor that you can use later on. These role plays work much better than pickup lines to get girls because they're funny and original. You can use them to push the envelope without her feeling like it's going to a personal level or threatening.
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Pick Up Lines To Get Girls - The Girlfriend Game

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ByClaire Geonzon
When you're trying to get a girlfriend and not a one-night stand, the game is slightly different. You're going to be trying out your pick up lines to get girls in what I call 'filtered venues.' These are places where you don't really need to start a conversation over the top. In fact, the more normal and low-key opener you use, the better. It's not like the usual game where you're going for impact.
Filtered venues are important because they get the specific types of girls that you're going to get along with. When that happens, you have a lot more in common with people than you would in a bar or club. The only thing you have in common there is that you like to drink.
Examples of filtered venues are yoga classes, vegan cooking classes, charity events, fund raisers, volunteer work, self-help seminars, work-related events, small concerts, political events, street fairs, community college classes, and places like that. The first step in the girlfriend game is to get out of the bars and clubs.
Another thing that's different is your choice of conversation topics. You'll want to talk about specific girlfriend-related topics. When you're building social comfort it's just like regular game, except that you want to share a bit more of yourself. Really spend some time grounding yourself and give a lot of information about who you are.
You should also talk about what you're looking for. You can let her know early on that you're interested in finding a long-term relationship. There's no reason to be sneaky about this. If she's not into that, you don't have to keep talking to her. With the girlfriend game, you can be a bit more honest and just lay everything on the table.
Before you start meeting women, you should have a clear idea of what you want and what's okay with you. Check out her:
- Health-related habits
- Emotional health
- Attitudes toward job and career
- Way of socializing and social attitude
- Likes and dislikes
These are all thing that are going to have a huge impact on your relationship. It's not important for her to be exactly the same as you. You just have to decide what's okay with you and what's not, and see how the girl measures up. When it comes to the girlfriend game, you don't really need pick up lines to get girls. What you need is a clear idea of what you're looking for.
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Seducing Women With Good Conversation Skills

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ByClaire Geonzon
Most guys struggle with the conversational part of seducing women. Not all of us can be witty and original. Lots of guys just resign themselves to being lousy conversationalists, but actually conversation is a skill that you can learn. All it takes is some preparation. Here are three ways to prepare so that you'll always be able to keep the conversation going.
What To Talk About
The key to being prepared is knowing your good conversational topics and steering the conversation toward them. For example, I'm good at talking about writing, pop culture, art, creativity, traveling and psychology. Those are the kinds of things that I steer the relationship toward.
You can get prepared by making three lists. One is ten things you like talking about. Everybody's got at least ten things they like to talk about. Don't worry about whether or not they're interesting to women or not. Second, make a list of ten things you want women to know about you. These should be ten different characteristics that you think, 'If a woman knows this about me, she's going to be really into me.' The third list should be a list of things women are into, like fashion, yoga, pop culture, the club scene, etc. If you're clueless about these topics, spend a few hours on Google researching.
Role Playing
Role playing means creating fun fantasies for the girl. Everybody's assigned a role and you act them out. They allow women to get emotionally involved with you with distance and objectivity. There are a million ways to role play and you can learn them on the Internet. The whole point is that they show that you're fun and playful. You're creative and you think outside the box. Role playing sets you apart from typical guys, who usually don't know how to do that.
Relating
Relating is a rapport topic where you play up all the commonalities you have with another person. Whenever you relate something a person says to yourself, you feel more connected with that person. So, whenever possible, relate what she says to yourself. This will create a really good vibe between you and you'll feel more connected.
Conversation is especially important at the social comfort stage of seducing women. This is where you're getting her generally comfortable with you. Once she knows that you're not a creep or weirdo, then you can start building attraction and it will come naturally.
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Approaching Women - Don't Be Afraid To Talk To Strangers

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ByClaire Geonzon
One of the main things that make approaching women hard is that you have to go from being silent and in your head, to suddenly being talkative. It's not so much the fear of the approach as much as it's wondering what you're going to say and how you're going to keep the conversation going.
How do you fix that? You do it by talking to people all the time. Every day, you've got 10 opportunities at the very least to talk to strangers. These are opportunities to have a quick 30-second social comfort conversation. You've got the people you buy lunch from, folks on the bus or train, people who do your laundry, the guys at the grocery store, people you run into in the park, etc.
Here's a great idea for talking to strangers - stop wearing a watch and start asking people for the time. Ask people on the street for directions to places you already know how to get to. The reason you need to do this is that you need to get used to talking to strangers. There's just no way around that.
Approaching people like this is called 'cold approach.' It's pretty crazy if you think about it - walking up to a girl you've never met and trying to start a sexual relationship. It's a little like asking some random dude on the street if you can borrow money from him. It's the toughest way to get laid.
Have conversations with strangers on a daily basis. Become a more talkative, open person. It's really tough for most people at first. I would know; I'm a naturally anti-social person. I'd rather play video games and read comic books. But staying at home and keeping to yourself doesn't get you anywhere, so here I am.
Lots of guys don't realize this but pick-up is a form of self-improvement. The more you change yourself to become a cool, relaxed, confident and social person, the more you'll get girls. It's as easy as that.
One of the easiest changes to make is to get yourself used to talking to strangers. Just like anything else, all it takes is some practice. You approach people and start chatting with them, and it just gets easier. Then, when you're approaching women during the day time to try to pick them up, you're cool and comfortable. It's just like asking somebody for the time.
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How To Approach A Woman During The Day Time - The Differences

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ByClaire Geonzon
You may know all there is to know about how to approach a woman at a bar or club, but when you make daytime approaches, it's a whole different game. Most guys assume that the day game is pretty much the same, and they're dead wrong. Day game is basically anything outside of a bar or club. At bars and clubs, there's a huge difference that really changes the dynamic - drugs and alcohol are involved.
There are advantage and disadvantages to day game. The biggest advantage is that there's usually no competition at all. There aren't a hundred other guys at the venue doing essentially the same thing as you - meeting girls. You also don't have all the distractions of your friends, her friends, the music, the lights, other girls, other guys, etc. Night clubs and bars can be over-stimulating.
During the daytime, she's walking around just doing her thing. Maybe she's running errands, going shopping, checking out the bookstore or having a cup of coffee. There's not much going on and this means nothing's going to get in the way of your conversation.
One disadvantage is that it's nearly impossible to pick up girls in groups during the day. When you approach groups, you need to be high-energy and that's just plain weird in the middle of the day. You might be okay approaching a pair of girls somewhere, but basically group approaches don't work well during the day. Your energy level during the day should be about a third of what it is at night.
Another difference is that touching doesn't work during the daytime. Can you imagine if you just grabbed some girl walking down the street? That's just plain creepy. Think of it this way - really light touching might be okay, but nothing that would be weird at work. If you wouldn't do it at the office, it's off limits during day game.
During the day, girls aren't drunk or high, and this often means they're not in social mode. This is why you don't just walk down the street throwing out openers. She's on her way to pick up her dry cleaning or take care of some other errand, and she's not expecting guys to walk up and talk to her.
Finally, day game doesn't end in sex. The goal is to get a phone number or set a date. That's it. When you want to know how to approach a woman successfully in the day time, you've got to keep these things in mind.
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How To Approach A Woman - The Basics Of a Day Game

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ByClaire Geonzon
When you want to learn how to approach a woman during the daytime, it's important to learn the fundamentals first. There are lots of tools and techniques that will get you results, but if you don't have the foundation in place, it's not going to work. Here are the 5 basics that you need to keep in mind to make your day game strong.
Talking To Strangers
You've got to get used to talking to strangers. If you can't walk up to somebody and ask the time, you're not going to be able to start a conversation with a hot girl. You can practice by taking every opportunity in your daily life to start conversations with strangers. It'll get easier and you can use this skill in approaching women.
Touching People
If it makes you uncomfortable to touch people you just met, you've got to get over this. During day game, there is lots of safe, non-threatening touching like arm touching or high-fives. This is why athletes are usually so good at picking up women - they're used to touching other people.
Teasing
Teasing is just as important during day game as during night game. Teasing should be fun and playful. Make sure you don't come off sounding mean or like a jerk. If you do this, you'll make her uncomfortable. Like talking to strangers and touching, you can practice teasing people you just met - not sexually, but just playfully.
Body Language
Body language really is as important as everybody says it is. Your body language should be relaxed and natural. You should stand up straight and make slow, relaxed movements. Make sure that you don't invade the girl's personal space during the day time.
Facial Expressions
Facial expressions are also extremely important. If you've got the right facial expression behind it, you can pull off any line in the book. You can say something like, 'I can see that you and me are never going to get along,' and she'll see that you're saying it as a joke. If you're not good at using your face, practice in front of a mirror and maybe take some acting classes.
I don't care how much you've studied how to approach a woman at night, it's a totally different game in the day time. There's no alcohol or loud music to cover for you. That's why it's so important to make sure you've got the basics down pat.
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How To Attract Girls With Facial Expressions

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ByClaire Geonzon
Body language is really important in learning how to attract girls, and facial expression is a big part of it. If you don't go through acting or theater training, chances are you've never learned how to use your face. I see lots of guys out there delivering funny lines but they don't work because their face isn't saying it too. You can have the best line on the planet and it will get you nowhere if you don't have the right facial expression. It's all about delivery.
I recommend this for my students - go to Wikipedia and find the list they have of 20 emotions. Print this out, get in front of the mirror, and work on each of these emotions until you've got them down perfectly. It may sound odd to do this, but trust me, it works.
There was a quote I read once from a guy named Commander Zap that really sums it up. He said, 'Don't say anything with words that you can say with a look. Don't say anything with a look that you can say with a wink. Don't say anything with a wink you can say with a smile.'
The whole point is that you should use the bare minimum amount of communication to get your point across. That's the essence of body language and it's really powerful. If you have good body language, you're taking a whole lot of noise out of whatever messages your words are delivering. Too much noise obscures the signal.
The key to using all body language effectively is to be straight and relaxed. You should look comfortable in your skin. Your facial expressions should go with what you're saying. For example, when you say something funny, you should be smiling. Don't listen to pick-up teachers who tell you to keep it dry and dead-pan. Use your facial expressions to communicate. That's what they're supposed to do.
Body language is one of the basics of day game along with touching, teasing and talking to strangers. If you have any weak points in any of these areas, you need to perfect them before you start learning pick-up artist techniques and tricks. Even the best lines and techniques aren't going to get you anywhere if these basic fundamentals aren't in place. You learn how to attract girls by starting at the very beginning and perfecting each step before you take the next one.
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How To Get Laid - The Steps For Making Her Your Girlfriend

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ByClaire Geonzon
When you're talking about how to get laid, I don't recommend sleeping with the girl on a first date. It might sound weird coming from me because I'm always talking about one-night stands, but you really want to get from Point A to Point B naturally. You don't want to risk too much when you want to get a girlfriend. When you're dating before sex, there are five things you want to have.
1. A perfect first date
2. Comfortable phone follow-up
3. Comfortable physical escalation
4. Follow-up dates
5. Escalation into sex that's smooth, normal and natural
The point is that you don't want things to be awkward. You don't want to be too aggressive and push things because when you find a girl you really like and you go on a couple of dates, you've invested something in it. You don't want to lose it.
After sex, you still have to keep it interesting. A lot of guys mess up because instead of continuing what they were doing after sex, which was working, they revert to being boring. They forget all the player stuff and get weird, awkward and dull. In order to make everything comfortable after sex, you have to make sure the experience is as good as possible. You shouldn't treat her any differently.
If you're texting her every day before you sleep with her, don't start trying to play hard to get. On the other hand, don't start texting all the time because you'll look weird and needy. Keep it the same until you've been dating for about a month, and then move it forward by talking to her.
It really takes about three months before she'll be officially your girlfriend, but you can do it in as little as a month if you can follow the steps correctly. But on the other hand, it's not a good idea to commit to a girl you've known for less than a month. You should make sure that you've known her at least four weeks.
The ideal situation is for her to bring things up. The ironic thing is that when you're interested in dating and having fun, girls are much more likely to want to have 'the talk' to figure out where things stand. However, it doesn't always happen so you should be prepared. Know what kind of timeline you're on. Just like anything else, set goals and decide when it's time to have the talk. There's much more to it than just learning how to get laid.
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How To Seduce Women - Initiating The 'Are We Dating' Talk

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ByClaire Geonzon
It's easy to learn how to seduce women for a one-night stand, but how about making her into your girlfriend? Surprisingly, this is much tougher to do. At some point, it requires 'the talk.' Most guys wait around for the girl to bring it up, which they sometimes do. But lots of times it doesn't work that way. You have to bring it up and that's not easy or comfortable for most guys.
If the girl initiates the talk and you're ready to commit, just say yes and you can live happily ever after. But if that doesn't happen, you've got to initiate. If the whole thing is taking too long for you and you want to know where things stand, you've got to take action.
Say something like, 'You know, I was talking to my friend the other day about you and it got me thinking about something. I'm not really sure what to call you. I mean, we're seeing each other and hanging out, but it feels weird to just call you my friend. I think we should talk about what we're doing.'
That's all you have to do to get it started. It's really low pressure. It's not needy because you're just telling her you want to know. There's no pressure for her to say one thing or another. You can stay cool while still laying it on the line and getting a straight answer.
If she says yes, the conversation is over and you're on your way. But she might also say she's not ready yet, or flat out reject you.
Chances are, this won't happen. If you've been seeing each other for a while, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. If she does reject you, be emotionally un-reactive and keep treating her the same way you were treating her before 'the talk.'
On the outside stay cool, but inside you should realize that this relationship is a ticking bomb. You want a long-term future but she's just having fun. She doesn't want to be your girlfriend after a month or longer of hanging out with you.
If you're okay with it, give her another month to change her mind. Again, wait for her to bring it up. If she doesn't, you should initiate 'the talk.' If it fails again, there's nothing to do except to bail. There's no point in chasing after someone who won't commit.
Learning how to seduce women is one thing, but turning seduction into a long-term relationship is a whole different ballgame. It takes time and patience. You've got to carefully consider who you choose to be your girlfriend.
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How To Seduce Women - The Dynamics Of Push Pull And Seesaws

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ByClaire Geonzon
Two of the best techniques in how to seduce women are push pulls and seesaws. Both of them are important because they do a couple of things at once. They send mixed signals and throw in some predictability, which is very attractive. We're attracted to things that are unpredictable because they don't get boring.
One of Mystery's best push pulls is 'I can tell already that we're not going to get along.' The key to using it right is to understand that a push pull is a seesaw. You want to make sure that it's balanced. If your seesaw is weighted down on one end too much, you look like a jerk. If it's too much the other way, you're too nice and it's not teasing anymore.
You really want to be right in the middle. So, for every tease that you throw at a girl, you want to have a back-up compliment just in case it totally bombs. If she takes it the wrong way, you can pull that out and save yourself.
For example, if you say 'I can already tell that we're not going to get along' and she replies, 'Yeah, you're right,' now you've got a bad reaction. If you compliment her now, you're reinforcing her being rude to you. Lots of guys would follow it up with a compliment because they don't stand up for themselves when girls are mean to them.
You can't say something like, 'What? Hey, I'm an alright guy. I just wanted to come over here and tell you that you're pretty.' Instead, you have to show that you're the kind of guy who stands up for himself. Girls don't like jerks, but they like guys who don't take anything. So, I would say something like, 'That's cool. Yeah, we'd just fight all the time and I'd always win and then you'd get low self-esteem, and I wouldn't want that to happen to you!'
On the other hand, if she reacts well and says something like, 'What? I think we'd get along great,' you don't want to punish her for that. If you do that, she'll be thinking, 'Why am I being nice to this guy?' So, in this case, you have to compliment her and say something like, 'Yeah, we're too similar,' which is actually a compliment in disguise.
The important thing when you're learning how to seduce women with teasing is to pay close attention to her reactions. That will tell you everything - whether it's working or not, when it's time to escalate, and when you need to ease it back a bit.
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How To Seduce Women - Anatomy Of An Opinion Opener

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ByClaire Geonzon
Openers are really important in how to seduce women. Not only does an opener have to be good, it also has to be something that can go somewhere and lead to a conversation. The opinion opener is a classic type of opener that works really well to get conversations started.
Opinion openers are good because they have a great risk to reward ratio. Opinion openers are low on the risk scale. However, they're also low on the reward scale. The lowest risk and lowest reward openers are ones where you're always going to get a good response. For example - 'Hey, I'm bleeding. Can you call 911?' She's going to say 'yes' to that.
On the other hand, what if you hit a girl with a really risky opener, like - 'Hey, let's get nasty together!' You'll get slapped and have drinks thrown at you, but there'll be that one in three hundred who'll be down with it.
There are lots of different opinion openers but they all have the same parts. The first part is a hook question. A hook question would be something like - 'Hey, do you think drunk I love you's count?'
The second part is their response and it's just as important as anything you say. You don't want to be running a monologue. You start sounding like a crazy homeless guy. But the thing about her response is that it really doesn't matter exactly what she says, just that she responds.
In fact, you shouldn't dwell on her response too long. You've got to move it along to the next phase. That part is the reason you asked. This is also known as the grounding. It explains what the question is. If you don't ground it, it'll be weird and not relevant to the situation, so you have to explain. This is like a mini-story.
In this example, it would be something like, 'The reason I ask is that my friend Dave got really drunk the other night and told his girlfriend that he loves her, and then the next day he took it back. Can you do that?'
Always use a name if you're talking about a friend or she'll assume it's you.
Finally, the fourth part is where you tease her. Have a tease ready for any kind of answer that she gives you. These are the four basic parts of the opinion opener in how to seduce women.
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Pick Up Artist Techniques - The Power Of Teasing

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ByClaire Geonzon
What is teasing? It's one of the most powerful pick up artist techniques the world has ever known. The key is to make it light-hearted, playful and fun. You should start teasing her right after you come off the opener and there are several ways to do this.
One is what I call 'banter.' This means witty banter, and it's a little hard to explain. It's a back and forth teasing, kind of like fighting but more like verbal foreplay. You see a lot of it on the show Sex and the City. You can learn about it from that show and also from asking female friends.
Using nicknames is part of this banter. Things like Dork, Brat, Munchkin, Princess, Kitten, etc. They're like the baby names old waitresses in diner give you when they say, 'What'll it be, Tiger,' or 'What can I get you, Sunshine.' Use these with girls as part of your teasing and it'll give everything a more playful feeling.
Another part of banter is using frames. Actually, frames are the underlying meaning of banter. In my opinion, frames are much more important than lines. The reason is that frames allow you to inject your own personality into the method. You don't just turn into a clone repeating lines you learned.
If you understand a couple of basic rules about framing, you can create your own material on the fly and you don't have to depend on other people's lines. For example, one good frame for banter is that she's hitting on you. You can get away with this because it's funny.
There are two types of frame control - active and passive. Active means you're actively doing a bunch of things like cutting people, talking over people, telling stories, etc. Passive means that things happen and nobody does anything about them. For example, I say I'm trying to get into a girl's pants and she laughs and says, 'At least you're honest.' If she continues to hang out with me, she's given me passive permission to escalate.
Banter, frames and teasing are all about establishing social comfort. In my method, I emphasize social comfort way more than pick up artist techniques. The reason is that comfort has to be there first before any of those techniques are going to work. You can't build attraction unless she's completely comfortable with what's going on.
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Day Game Pick Up Artist Techniques - The Fake Phone Call

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ByClaire Geonzon
Social comfort and social questions are really important pick up artist techniques for your day game. I used to call them 'pre-openers.' The idea is that it's something to snap the girl into social mode based on the blueprint of how to talk to people that's already available. She's on her way to run errands or do something and not in social mode, so your social question gets her there.
Everybody has had someone come up to them and ask them for direction, the time, a smoke, etc. This is how you get it started. You walk up and you should be as situation relevant as possible. This is the key to everything - not only picking up girls but also socializing in general. If it's not situation relevant, it's wrong.
For example, you might see a hot girl at the grocery store and hold up an item and say, 'Hey, do you know how to cook this?' This is situation relevant. If you pick up a jacket at a store in the mall and ask her, 'Hey, do you know how to cook this,' it's not going to work!
I discovered one of the best openers totally by accident. I was in Starbucks telling my friend how a friend of mine told her boyfriend she loved him when she was really drunk, and then the next day, she tried to take it back. I told him, 'You can't take it back, can you?' And a girl who was sitting nearby chimed in, 'No way! That's a done deal!' Then, I asked her what she thought about that. This is where I got the Drunk I Love You opener.
You can use opinion openers in the daytime. An opinion opener is something like, 'I need a quick opinion on something. Who do you think buys more, men or women?' You can get a girl to eavesdrop and turn it into an opinion opener by making a phone call. Turn your ringer off so nobody calls you when you're doing it, and have a fake phone call.
Talk a little bit louder than usual and when you notice her listening, say, 'Hey, don't eavesdrop. Actually, wait a minute - we need a girl's opinion on something.'
This is a great way to use an opinion opener as your social question to open the day game. This is one of the best pick up artist techniques for getting a conversation started during the daytime.
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Pick Up Beautiful Women

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ByClaire Geonzon
When you want to , it all starts with social comfort and part of building social comfort is teasing. A great way to tease is to use frames. When you use a frame, you're messing with the underlying meaning of what's going on. If you do it in a playful way, you can gain her consent to escalate the encounter.
There are lots of great frames that you can use. One of my favorites is that she's hitting on you. It's funny because it turns the tables on her, and if she laughs and plays along, she's giving you permission to escalate. It means that she's comfortable with the idea.
Another frame is to tell her you just want to get in her pants. As you can probably imagine, delivery is everything. It has to be playful and silly or else it will be creepy. If you say it in a playful way and she laughs and says, 'At least you're honest,' she knows what's up and she's okay with it. She could've just left after that but she didn't.
She's weird and creepy. This is another great frame that works well for me. This works especially well when you're talking to a really hot girl because they don't expect it. Try to find something a little off about her and make that the focus of the teasing. For example, she has a strange habit or she has man hands. This also shows that you're paying attention to her and not just making stuff up.
She's jealous. This is a great frame that can lead to role playing. Role playing is great because it's fun and you can play around with it, all with some distance and objectivity from the actual situation. This is especially useful in daytime pick-ups where you want to get her out of the actual situation - that a guy's hitting on her in the grocery store.
Lots of guys can't be playful and fun with teasing because they're afraid of getting stuck in the 'friend zone.' However, those fears are totally unfounded. If you know how to use teasing and role plays effectively, the friend zone is where you can escalate it to something more.
If you want to , you've got to learn how to tease. You should start doing it right after the opener. It's especially important when you're trying to pick up women during the daytime.
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The Direct And Indirect Approach To Pick Up Beautiful Women

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ByClaire Geonzon
When you use openers to pick up beautiful women, there are two different approaches - direct and indirect openers. When I first got into the game, there were two camps and each thought their method was the best. One said it was better to be indirect and not show that you like the girl while the other said it's better to act like a man and be direct.
I used to be really dogmatic about this myself. I came out of the Mystery Method and I stuck clearly to what it teaches. But I started to experiment because I wanted to learn everything I could about the game. It's through this experimenting that I've learned all that I know.
The bottom line is that you need to step out of your comfort zone. Virginia Satir, one of the therapists from whose work NLP was developed, said the main human instinct is not to survive but to do what's familiar. Lots of guys hear these pick up strategies and they say, 'That's cool, but it's not me.' They never try and never find out how powerful they can be.
I was raised on indirect openers and they suited my style because I suffered from lack of social skills. Then, out of the blue I got over myself and tried a direct opener. I told a girl she was adorable and I wanted to meet her. Within 30 seconds, I had a date with her.
But the direct approach is tough. We always say in the indirect approach that if she says no, she's not rejecting you; she's rejecting the approach. With the direct approach, she's rejecting YOU. That can be nerve-wracking. So, if you're going to try the direct approach, keep in mind that you will be rejected.
When I started direct approaches I was so nervous. But after getting rejected a number of times, I got this weird surge of confidence. Now, I could do it and I wasn't afraid of getting rejected. Plus it was nice to do it without any trickery or anything weird.
Both direct and indirect approaches work if you want to pick up beautiful women. It all depends on the situation and on your skill in using them. This is what I learned from jumping right in and trying them both. There's no dogmatic stance on this. The point is that you've got to experiment with both and you'll naturally figure out where they work and where they don't.
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Pick Up Lines To Get Girls - The Rings Observational Opener

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ByClaire Geonzon
One of the cool things about using pick up lines to get girls during the daytime is that you meet a much higher quality girl. If you're interested in girls who are more fully well-rounded, your chances of meeting a really cool medical student at 2 in the morning on a Wednesday at a dance club are pretty much zero. But at coffee shops, shopping malls, bookstores and places like that, you're likely to meet quality women.
A great way to meet girls during the daytime is with observational openers. This is just where you make an observation and turn it into an encounter. One of my favorites is the rings observation. You say to a girl, 'Wow, that's a really interesting finger you wear your ring on. Did you choose that?'
The exact phrasing here is really important because it has an inbuilt hook, and with openers, the hook is everything. If you just start in on explaining what that finger means, you'll sound weird. Instead, you want to play on her curiosity and do it naturally.
The usual reaction is, 'Why is that?' You may get a strange look, but don't let that bother you. It just means she's having a rough day or something. Just push on.
Tell her, 'Yeah, they say the fingers you wear your rings on are a different Greek god or goddess and the one you pick is the one you psychologically identify with. That one is particularly interesting.'
This is a second hook that gets her a little bit more invested. The more she invests, the more she'll comply, and this means you're more likely to get a phone number and a date.
Once she respond and shows interest, then you can start really talking. 'Okay, well that one is really interesting because it has a double meaning. It means Athena, who was the goddess of wisdom, but it also means Dionysius, who was the god of wine and chaos. So, that means that there's a part of you that's really together and with it, and a part of you that's really cool.'
She'll probably be thinking, 'Wow, that's so me.' The reason is that it's a cold read. The things you said are true about almost everyone. It's one step away from saying, 'You wake up when the sun is out and go to bed when the moon is out.'
This is one of my favorite observational openers and it's one of the best pick up lines to get girls that I know.
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Pick Up Lines To Get Girls - 3 Opinion Openers That Work

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ByClaire Geonzon
Opinion openers work as great pick up lines to get girls. They hook her with an interesting question, follow it up with a quick conversation and then give you an opportunity to tease and move it forward. Here are a few of my favorites.
Drunk I Love You's
With this one, you ask her if drunk 'I love you's' count. Then you tell her a story about a friend of yours who told his girlfriend he loved her when he was drunk, and then the next day took it back. This one is great because it has built in pre-selection. It gets you talking and gives you an opportunity to tease.
Three Goodbyes
Another one is to ask a girl, 'What's the proper way to get off the phone?' This came from an experience I had with a girlfriend who wanted me to get off the phone by saying three separate goodbyes, which I thought was insane. Most girls will tell you that once is enough, and then you can start talking about how crazy it is that someone would want you to say it three times.
How Long Does It Take To Get Ready
This is a classic one - ask her how long it takes her to get ready. This is something where you need a girl's opinion. Tell her that the reason you asked is that your friend takes forever to get ready and you're still waiting for him. Isn't it odd for a guy to take so long?
Coming Up With Your Own
I came up with all three of these openers because of real-life experience and that's where the best ones come from. I actually do have a friend who takes forever to get ready, and that was the inspiration for that last one. You can come up with great openers yourself by just looking for inspiration among your friends and ex-girlfriends.
How To Make Them Work
There are four parts to a good opinion opener:
1. The opening question - 'Hey, I need a girl's opinion on something...'
2. Her response - Give her a chance to reply but don't turn it into a conversation just yet.
3. Your explanation - 'The reason I ask is...' followed by your mini-story.
4. A good tease that moves things along.
Opinion openers work great as pick up lines to get girls, and you can use them at night in the clubs or during the daytime wherever you're trying to lay down your game.
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Seducing Women - Direct Vs Indirect Approaches

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ByClaire Geonzon
When it comes to seducing women, there are two ways you can make your approach - direct or indirect. Direct means just starting a conversation with a girl with the expectation that you want to get to know her better. Indirect is when you're just making conversation and it doesn't matter who she is.
For example, opinion openers are indirect. You're showing that you're interested in her opinion. With a direct opener, you're showing her that you're interested in HER.
Both of these methods have different mechanisms that drive them. A good direct approach is all about showing the girl that you're a powerful man who is not afraid to make himself vulnerable to a special woman. That's really the main principle behind direct approaches. You see this in movies and romance novels all the time.
Actually, if you really want to know about women, it's good to read romance novels. These are porn for females and the theme is always the same - A dude that's tough and bad. He might be the dread pirate king or a cruel police chief, or a widower who's moved to some backwater part of Texas to escape his past. The details of the story change but it's always basically the same.
Women are attracted to things that are bigger and stronger than them. She has to see that you're a little more powerful because women are more emotional and you have to be a rock in the storm of emotions.
Unlike indirect approaches, you're not going to have a big cheesy smile on your face. The direct approach is more serious. Direct is more about you than her. Even if you're talking about her, it's really about you - you're the type of man who approaches women he's attracted to.
Indirect is playful and fun. It's not all about her and sexual attraction; instead, it's social and goofy. Indirect lets you be more objective and distant. You create a safe situation for her and build social comfort before you start escalating to the level of attraction.
Indirect is easier for most guys who are not super-confident and naturally powerful. However, even if it scares the crap out of you, you've got to try direct approaches. It's important to get out of your safety zone because there are some situations where direct approaches really work. You need to be skilled at both to be a master at seducing women.
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Approaching Women - 3 Ways To Be A Master Conversationalist

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ByClaire Geonzon
Conversation isn't easy for lots of guys, but it's essential that you can keep a conversation going when you're approaching women. The whole way you do it is to be prepared. Know what kinds of things you're going to talk about it and you'll develop little routines that you can use whenever there's a dull moment. Here are three ways to do this.
Talk About Your Interests
Make a list of all the different things you're interested in or things you're doing lately. It can also be things you haven't done; for example, if you've been thinking about skydiving, this goes on the list.
When somebody meets a guy they're interested in, they want to know what he's into. They're trying to figure out what kind of guy he is. Does he sit around watching sports or travel the world? They want to know this stuff about you and the quicker you can bring it up, the easier it's going to be to find commonalities for conversation topics.
Don't Be Afraid To Share
Be willing to share things about yourself. If you have strong opinions, it gets other people into conversation. It doesn't matter whether they agree with you or not. So, what you should do is share something about yourself. It can be something funny, interesting, weird or whatever. Get used to opening yourself up and sharing something.
Self-Commentary
This may seem a little strange at first, but don't be afraid to talk about the situation at hand. For example, if I might be talking to a girl and say, 'Okay, you didn't laugh at all there, back to the beginning.' Or something like, 'Well, that sounded a lot funnier in my head.'
Self-commentary shows that you have social intuition. You can read other people and you know what's going on. You're not socially retarded. She'll be more attracted to you if she knows that you understand what's going on. It also shows your sense of humor. Being too serious is the kiss of death when you're trying to build social comfort.
These are just a few techniques for approaching girls that work really well. The whole idea is to keep the conversation going smoothly and avoid awkward pauses. Build social comfort and let her get to know better. You can only start laying on the attraction once you've gotten this social comfort well-established. And remember that improving your conversation skills just takes practice.
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Approaching Women To Get A Girlfriend The Easy Way

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ByClaire Geonzon
When you talk about approaching women, one of the biggest questions I always get from guys is how to get a girlfriend. I'm not going to say it's simple exactly, but there are just three important parts to getting a girlfriend. There's no tactical pick-up stuff about it; it's really simple.
These three things are:
Your mindsetFiguring out what you wantDating and having the talk
Your mindset means getting into the idea of having a girlfriend and committing to it. This means accepting the whole idea of dating somebody.
Figuring out what you want is also important. Most guys go for a girl because she's hot, she's funny, or something else that's a little bit superficial. But it's really important to think carefully about this and determine exactly what things you're looking for in her personality.
Finally, there is a sort of 'game' part to getting a girlfriend. It's all about talk, and what to say when it's time to ask her if she'll be your girlfriend.
Why Get A Girlfriend?
There are two reasons to get a girlfriend. One reason is that you realize you're not really that into dating and playing the field. Maybe you've been successful or maybe you haven't, but you're just not into it. You're not into going on dates, you're not into approaching women on a consistent basis, and it all feels like work to you at this point. If this is how you feel, you're probably the type of guy who should get a girlfriend.
The second reason is that you're looking for something more. You'd prefer to have something with a deeper level of emotions, deeper intimacy, and maybe you're even thinking about getting married and settling down. It might be time to start a new chapter in your life and you want to move forward.
The truth is that for most guys, getting a girlfriend is the right decision. If you want to do it, you should do it. For most people, being a player and trying to date multiple women is going to be more stressful than fun, and then it probably won't be that successful. On the other hand, you can use pick-up techniques for approaching women with the long-term goal of finding a girlfriend. This is a great way to find the right girl that you can settle down and have lots of fun with for years.
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Approaching Women - The Right Mindset For Finding A Girlfriend

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ByClaire Geonzon
When it comes to approaching women to get a girlfriend, mindset is everything. Mindset is the way you think, your beliefs, your ideas about women, sex, and relationships, etc. Every guy has gone through a period in his life where he's torn between the player lifestyle and wanting to have a steady girlfriend.
The problem with being a guy is that men are just biologically designed to spread their seed to as many women as possible. This goes way back to caveman days when we had to have lots of healthy sons and daughters for further reproduction. Men are evolutionarily designed to want lots of sex with different partners.
But a life full of meaningless sex is just that - meaningless. If you're a player, you'll often find yourself sleeping alone because you don't want the girls spending the night and getting feelings. It means purposely keeping yourself emotionally distant so that you don't build too much interest and then hurt the girl's feelings.
If you want to get a girlfriend, you have to be able to reconcile these two forces. When you want to commit, you've got to get rid of friction. By friction, I mean the two equal and opposite forces in your life. In this case, it's the friction between being a player and somebody's boyfriend.
If you're going to commit, you have to accept this dual nature as reality. You can't just pretend like it doesn't exist. Your love is no different than any other, and you're sometimes going to have times where you're really attracted to someone other than your girlfriend.
It's completely normal and natural. It doesn't mean you're weird or deviant, or that there's anything wrong with your relationship. She'll sometimes want to be with someone else too. It's a fact and it's biology.
Denial makes this friction much worse. The more you try to deny it, the more attention you draw to it. It can turn into serious anxiety, just like approach anxiety. You know how if you deny your approach anxiety, it just gets worse. This is the same, so it's important to admit that this friction exists.
When lots of guys get into relationships, they think their love is somehow different. They don't understand that this is a natural fact and something to be accepted. But before you start approaching women to find a girlfriend, you've got to decide that you're ready to ditch the player lifestyle and settle down with one girl for the long haul.
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How To Approach A Woman - 3 Simple Tips To Make It Easier

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ByClaire Geonzon
Learning how to approach a woman is one of the biggest challenges you'll face in your game. I've picked a few simple techniques that I think will help anybody who's learning how to improve this aspect of their game.
Social Questions
When it comes to approaching a woman, social questions are great. These are questions that are nothing more than placeholders in a conversation, but they don't affect your social comfort negatively.
For example, let's say you're talking to a girl in a mall. You might ask her who she's shopping for today. That's not really going to hurt you at all and it's not going to be a wrong move, but it might open up some conversational opportunities.
If you're out at night, you might ask, 'What's your agenda for later?' Or, 'What's the occasion?' These are harmless, simple questions that may not lead anywhere, but they could lead somewhere. They're purely social and not about building attraction. You can think of them as time fillers.
Group Dynamics
Group dynamics are really important. When you approach a group, you've got to neutralize them. They don't need to love you, but you don't want them to actively block you. There's a big difference between neutralizing and loving. They don't need to be your best friends buying you shots and all of that, but you don't want them calling a jerk for pulling one girl out of the group. That's what can happen if you don't pay attention to them.
Social questions help in neutralizing groups. Other things that help are compliments and rapport. You want to be super nice to everybody in the group except for the girl you're attracted to. Give them compliments, tell them they're pretty (if they're girls), and if they're guys, compliment them on their shirts or their style, and so on. Really suck up to everybody except the girl you're attracted to.
Staying Relaxed
Another important point about social questions is that you've got to stay relaxed. Especially when you make your approach, lots of guys have a tendency to quit breathing naturally. It's sometimes helpful to take a deep breath or two before you approach. You can also do something to help ground you physically when you find yourself being nervous.
Of course, learning how to approach a woman gets easier the more you do it. Pretty soon, you won't be thinking about it at all, but until then keep these things in mind.
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How To Approach A Woman - The Right Mindset For Getting A Girlfriend

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ByClaire Geonzon
When you want to learn how to approach a woman in order to find a girlfriend, you've got to work on commitment. You have to commit yourself to the idea of having a girlfriend before you can commit to a specific girl.
'Commitment' is a scary word, but actually, you make commitments every day. You commit to having a friend, going to the gym, meeting for beers, or whatever. Being committed to one person is just another piece of that commitment puzzle. You're going to be committed to her in the same way.
When you can really commit to having a girlfriend, there are a few really cool things that are going to happen. The first is that you're going to quit worrying about whether to approach or hang out with certain girls. You'll just meet women, talk to them, and there's no need to work on your skills. It's not just going out to have fun and get laid.
At this point, you're going to stop worrying about approaching every girl. You'll feel a lot less pressure because you're not approaching girls who aren't girlfriend material anymore. You'll also come across better to women because you know what you're looking for.
When you have a clear, solid idea of what you're looking for, you'll always be more attractive to women. The reason is that you're coming from a place of screening. You're not interested in every girl out there, but only the type of girl that you have in mind. You're looking for girls that you can really spend some time with.
You're going to have more confidence because you have a clear, identifiable goal. That's one of the powerful things about goal setting. When you have a goal, no matter how many times you mess up, you can get back on the horse and ride again. This is because you've set a trajectory; you know where you're trying to go.
Along with this, you've got to accept the fact that as a guy, it's normal and natural to be attracted to other women as well. When you get a girlfriend, no matter how strong your love is, you're still going to feel attraction for other women. Instead of denying this, accept it and know that if you're committed, you'll resist all urges to chase other women. If you want to know how to approach a woman looking for girlfriend material, this is the right mindset that you need.
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