ByJasmin M O'Hara
We long for deep and fulfilling relationships. We yearn to be fully seen and loved despite our flaws and shortcomings. But how can you tell if the chemistry between you is supportive or counter-productive?
Know Thyself
Awareness is the result of the commitment to truly know one's self and one's motivations. Buried deep in our unconscious are many beliefs, attitudes, experiences and decisions that steer our lives. When, despite our best intentions, things go wrong we can look to the buried treasure of the subconscious for an explanation.
There is no substitute for awareness and healing. Once a faulty or outdated belief system is unearthed from the unconscious we are then in a position to heal it. We gain freedom from the 'puppet-master' lurking in the unconscious.
Example:
At thirty-eight Katy was despairing she'd ever meet a loving, supportive, committed man. She longed to have a soul mate who would be a loving father to her children.
It was only when Katy took a good look at the unconscious drivers that were driving the good men away from her door that her life turned around. She did this in three easy steps: First she gained awareness of her past and her soul lessons (unconscious factors). Secondly she made them conscious and thirdly she healed them.
Katy's father was mostly absent during her childhood. She witnessed her mother mend and make do as she waited for the money to arrive. She intuited as well as witnessed her mother's distress. Her early impression of men was that they were never there when needed but were responsible for supplying money which had arrived mysteriously in her home.
Not surprisingly Katy attracted absent men who offered no hands-on support. They left her more drained than uplifted. Nor did she have any reliable imprinting on how money is made. It was hard for her to know how to relate to a man.
Katy's Astrology
The astrological birth chart shows the lessons our soul has chosen to learn this lifetime. On examining her birth chart it was clear that her soul wanted to learn how to be close to a loving, supportive man. This was evidenced by her retrograde Saturn in the 2nd House, a placement that indicates a conspicuous absence of these factors in her early life.
There was often great compatibility between this aspect of her chart and many of the men she met. In other words, the easy flow of energy between the man's chart and her Saturn meant she could go into a room of a thousand men and pick the one who needed to work away and/or had money issues.
This type of compatibility can be counter-productive. Katy needed to develop her own capability for earning money. In addition, she needed to strengthen her Mars - which was placed in Sagittarius in the 9th House conjunct Chiron. (This signified her own inner weak masculine energy, which she manifested in the outer world). Learning how to make her way in the world was the key that gave her the self esteem to attract a wonderful, loving, supportive man who came home each night to be with her.
There is no substitute for Self Esteem
Not being able to understand and heal our soul lessons is the fundamental basis of low self esteem. Once we have solved that riddle we become unstoppable. Healing self esteem is easy, once we gain awareness of the unconscious factors behind it. Katy healed her weakened Mars (a primary significator of male energy) and felt so good about her new found skill she attracted exactly the right man. Healing her Mars involved setting achievable goals and working diligently towards their accomplishment.
Understanding Compatibility
It is clear from Katy's story that compatibility was not the only issue at stake. In fact, she often had great compatibility which tricked her into thinking she had met Mr Right and putting up with less than her soul longed for.
When self esteem is reasonably good then we can look at other energy flows between partners.
copyright 2011 Jasmin O'Hara, Gold Coast, Australia
Get your FREE ebook Soulmate Astrology at www.celticshaman.com.au Jasmin is an Astrologer, Counsellor, Healer and Life Coach.
Jasmin O'Hara jasmin
We long for deep and fulfilling relationships. We yearn to be fully seen and loved despite our flaws and shortcomings. But how can you tell if the chemistry between you is supportive or counter-productive?
Know Thyself
Awareness is the result of the commitment to truly know one's self and one's motivations. Buried deep in our unconscious are many beliefs, attitudes, experiences and decisions that steer our lives. When, despite our best intentions, things go wrong we can look to the buried treasure of the subconscious for an explanation.
There is no substitute for awareness and healing. Once a faulty or outdated belief system is unearthed from the unconscious we are then in a position to heal it. We gain freedom from the 'puppet-master' lurking in the unconscious.
Example:
At thirty-eight Katy was despairing she'd ever meet a loving, supportive, committed man. She longed to have a soul mate who would be a loving father to her children.
It was only when Katy took a good look at the unconscious drivers that were driving the good men away from her door that her life turned around. She did this in three easy steps: First she gained awareness of her past and her soul lessons (unconscious factors). Secondly she made them conscious and thirdly she healed them.
Katy's father was mostly absent during her childhood. She witnessed her mother mend and make do as she waited for the money to arrive. She intuited as well as witnessed her mother's distress. Her early impression of men was that they were never there when needed but were responsible for supplying money which had arrived mysteriously in her home.
Not surprisingly Katy attracted absent men who offered no hands-on support. They left her more drained than uplifted. Nor did she have any reliable imprinting on how money is made. It was hard for her to know how to relate to a man.
Katy's Astrology
The astrological birth chart shows the lessons our soul has chosen to learn this lifetime. On examining her birth chart it was clear that her soul wanted to learn how to be close to a loving, supportive man. This was evidenced by her retrograde Saturn in the 2nd House, a placement that indicates a conspicuous absence of these factors in her early life.
There was often great compatibility between this aspect of her chart and many of the men she met. In other words, the easy flow of energy between the man's chart and her Saturn meant she could go into a room of a thousand men and pick the one who needed to work away and/or had money issues.
This type of compatibility can be counter-productive. Katy needed to develop her own capability for earning money. In addition, she needed to strengthen her Mars - which was placed in Sagittarius in the 9th House conjunct Chiron. (This signified her own inner weak masculine energy, which she manifested in the outer world). Learning how to make her way in the world was the key that gave her the self esteem to attract a wonderful, loving, supportive man who came home each night to be with her.
There is no substitute for Self Esteem
Not being able to understand and heal our soul lessons is the fundamental basis of low self esteem. Once we have solved that riddle we become unstoppable. Healing self esteem is easy, once we gain awareness of the unconscious factors behind it. Katy healed her weakened Mars (a primary significator of male energy) and felt so good about her new found skill she attracted exactly the right man. Healing her Mars involved setting achievable goals and working diligently towards their accomplishment.
Understanding Compatibility
It is clear from Katy's story that compatibility was not the only issue at stake. In fact, she often had great compatibility which tricked her into thinking she had met Mr Right and putting up with less than her soul longed for.
When self esteem is reasonably good then we can look at other energy flows between partners.
copyright 2011 Jasmin O'Hara, Gold Coast, Australia
Get your FREE ebook Soulmate Astrology at www.celticshaman.com.au Jasmin is an Astrologer, Counsellor, Healer and Life Coach.
Jasmin O'Hara jasmin
