ByClaire Geonzon
Learning how to approach a woman directly is really hard for lots of guys. Lots of guys have trouble with their inner game. One of the cool things about direct game is that it helps you get those issues out in the open so you can deal with them.
One of the biggest problems is that guys don't see themselves as attractive to women. They think they need to really blow a woman away for her to get interested. These guys put women on a pedestal and it really ruins their game to do that.
My First Direct Approach
Of course, you're extremely nervous when you first try a direct approach. My first direct approach was in a coffee shop. I spied an absolute 10 and I had to try it. I sat there sweating and shaking my leg for a while, then I just got up and went over. I said, 'I know this is really random but I noticed you and I thought you were cute and I wanted to come and meet you. I'm John.' I was talking about a mile a minute. She actually asked me to sit down because I looked so nervous.
Needless to say, I didn't get her number that day. The first 50 or so direct approaches you try, you're probably 10 times as nervous as you would be with indirect approaches. It's seriously that difficult. You're mind's going, 'I'm too old, I'm too young, she's out of my league, she's probably married,' etc.
Getting Better At It
Your mind comes up with all kind of excuses because it's trying to escape this state of stress it's in. But this stress reaction goes away the more you try it. Even after just 5 times you'll notice a difference. On your 15th time, it'll be almost routine.
Actually, once you get used to it, it's much easier than an indirect opener. Indirect openers take lots of preparation and planning. With a direct opener you just go up and lay it on the table.
The First Taste Of Success
I also remember my first successful opener. I went up to a girl and said, 'You're hot. You should talk to me.' She ended up being a go-go dancer and the rest is history.
The point is that when you learn how to approach a woman directly, it builds great confidence. You learn that you're good enough. It quiets that voice in your head that freaks out because it's stressed.
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